Why do men cheat on good women?
Wow! What a nail bitter, right?
To be honest ladies, there are a lot of reasons why we become unfaithful to you all. Sometimes the reasons run together, becoming a multipronged spur that kick starts our cheating ways. And sometimes there is singular reason that stands alone, independent from any other reason. For instance, ladies did you know that when we get into a relationship other women find us drastically more appealing? It’s not like we do anything too different from when we were single, it just minor things that other women innately pick up on. For instance, we don’t speak with Brenda from accounting any differently than we did when we weren’t in a relationship. The only difference now is we might not take our customary extra look at Brenda’s booty when she walks away or compliment her on her new dress the same way we did before. However, Brenda loves the way we give her compliments and does Pilates to get her booty in prime condition. Brenda might’ve never considered giving us the time of day before, but now our new found relationship has us looking a little different to her. We always want what we can’t have and it seems like sometimes women take that as a personally insult. I’ve had women come up to me when I was in relationship and ask, “do you think your girl would mind if I gave you my number?” Understand that unlike women, men don’t get hollered at on a regular basis. You all might be accustom to saying “no” to advances from the opposite sex, but we’re not. So when women start coming out the woodwork because we have the scent of relationship on us, it can be somewhat overwhelming. Yes, this is probably the weakest reason why a dude cheats on his woman, that’s if it’s his only reason. Typically, the alluring influx of “new pussy” approaching us goes hand and hand with other reasons that causes us to cheat. Nonetheless, this is a very real reason and there isn’t much you ladies can do if this is the only reason.
Another, more definitive reason why men cheat is because women change up so hard once we’re committed. This change up can happen at any time in the relationship, but the best time to witness this is after the honeymoon period. During this period everything about the relationship runs smoother than a Rolex’s second hand. However, when the honeymoon period runs its course, the relationship begins to get “realer than real”. Now this transitional period can be cool when both parties in the relationship agree to make realistic compromises and changes for the other. On the other hand this period can be disastrous when unrealistic expectations and melodramatic analyses are put into the air. And to be honest, you women have a tendency to bring a lot of both to the table more so than us men. For instance, you seemingly didn’t mind kicking it with his boys when you first started talking. However, once your man makes it official, suddenly you see his boys as a detriment to your fledgling relationship. Or better yet, many women begin to harp on the supposed underlying messages being expressed in every action and statement that there men make. For instance, I remember I was getting a massage one day and told the young lady “I love when people do that”. Shorty turned to me and said, “yeah, but what about when I do it?” Needless to say, I found myself engaged in an hour long discussion about how I’m not ready to be in relationship if I’m still talking about how ‘people’ make me feel, instead of talking about how ‘she’ makes me feel. Does this sound like you ladies? Brothers, does this sound like your girlfriend or your ex? Doesn’t Brenda and her endless flirting seem so much more appeasing now? Ladies, I respect the fact that you all want us to be serious about our relationships with you all, yet that doesn't justify going off on the deep end. We don’t like being critiqued and questioned all the time, especially when you didn’t start the relationship being that way. Yes, there will be disagreements, but you all need to distinguish what issues are worthy of being brought up. If it’s something that’s really inconsequential to the stability of the relationship, leave it alone. We don’t care that your last boyfriend cheated on you, we’re not him. And if you haven’t found damning evidence to our infidelity, then you need to leave us be. Keeping knocking on the devil's door, and he will answer. In other words, chill!
And last but not least, we cheat when there’s a lack of a real connection. What I mean is that we sometimes met people and fall for the idea of them instead of falling for them. For example, we might meet a lady and like the fact that she’s beautiful, independent, strong willed, intelligent, hardworking, and whatever other good quality you could imagine. Yet, liking the qualities of somebody doesn’t equate to actually liking that person. Yeah you might be a good catch on paper, but that doesn’t mean because he’s also a good catch that everything is going work out. Our perceptions of what we like and don’t like are heavily influenced by our social interactions. From an early age, men are told that we should find a woman who’s a lot like our mothers. So we, either consciously or unconsciously, begin looking for that woman, even if it’s not what we really want. What we should want is to find someone who we have a natural, unforced connection with. But in this fast-paced world where consumerism and upward mobility reign supreme, it’s getting increasingly hard to sit back and figure out what defines what we like. So instead of doing some soul searching, we find ourselves getting with people who society dictates we should like. Unfortunatley, by the time we many of us figure out what we like, we might be 2 years committed into a relationship we’re deadly afraid to get out of. So instead of biting the bullet, we might cheat with somebody who we have more of an organic connection with. Brenda from accounting might not be half the woman that you are on paper, but she makes us laugh and she’s a huge Giants fan. And that might mean a lot more to us than your high level job, you intellect, or your beauty.
So are these the only reasons why men cheat? Well, I can’t speak for every man, but I’m pretty sure these are definite reasons why we do you all dirty. Funny thing, there are definitly others. For instance, your man might cheat because you might’ve stopped doing what you use to do sexually. In other words, there are a lot of reasons that cause us to cheat. What I hope you ladies take from my explanations is that the act of cheating for men doesn’t come easy. Often you all think we’re just mindless breathing apparatuses for our dicks and don’t care that we’re dating a “queen”. Rather, there is rhyme and reason to a lot of our madness. And believe it or not, sometimes you are the reason why we cheat. But please, don’t become disenchanted by the prospect of you being at fault. Just take my advice and try to remember it the next time you begin a relationship.